Mothers! Put that phone down! Gaze in to those sweet baby eyes!
I know it gets boring to sit on the couch (or chair or wherever that comfy nursing spot is that you love) but please do remember to take some time to gaze in to those sweet baby eyes. Bonding is a complex thing and is driven by oxytocin.
Oxytocin has an important role in breastfeeding and is also often referred to as the love hormone. Mothers struggling to let down their breastmilk are sometimes prescribed oxytocin to help. Oxytocin promotes love, bonding, and makes you feel good overall! Babies are perfectly created to be able to see the exact distance from your breast to your eyes from birth. Babies are born ready to bond!
Moms (and dads) and babies need a daily dose of oxytocin to promote bonding. A simple way to do that is to gaze in each others eyes. There’s a reason why toddlers will often shout “No phone!” to a well meaning mama who is feeding the little one for the umpteenth time. Babies (and older kiddos) are hard wired to want your attention. It’s also good for you. Some theorize that oxytocin can help treat depression.
It’s totally ok to want to be on Facebook, read a book, read your Kindle, watch TV, etc while nursing but please do take some time to gaze in to those baby eyes every day. Take some time to snuggle! Even better, wear your baby and get some skin to skin time in as well.
If you want to learn more about Oxytocin here are a few sources to get you started:
What do you like to do with your baby to promote bonding?